It's true that too much of anything is not good. Excessive eating , drinking and partying is a big NO-NO! But one would assume that anything nice and pleasant can't go very wrong but that was my lesson this year!
I found that being nice if over done can land me in hot soup. For one thing , being nice to this "friend" who seems to hate my guts did not change her hatred for me. I have not spoken to her for almost 2 years and she is still back biting...OUCH OUCH! i am kidding LOL it no longer hurts now. I just laugh when i hear my friends tell me how she bitches about me. I have spent years on end trying to be nice to her and now i have given up and just ignore her.
Showing consideration and concern for parties who apparently seemed lost has also landed me in another kind of predicament. Intentions are misconstrued and I may have been labelled as needy! Never before have i been so misunderstood! It all started with me wanting to lend a hand and somewhere along the way , the roles got switched and I ended up in the opposite party!
Example no.3 is the norm and a classic. I am sure everyone at one point or another has been in this scenario. You thought it would be nice to help out or do something constructive. Sometimes you get appreciative words and other times, there will be an array of complaints to spoil it all. That's always expected and most times, we weigh the odds and think that its worth the effort. That's life. We have to take the good and the bad.
So where does this leave us? Do we still continue to be nice? Do we now identify who we can be nice to and who we have to stay away from? Or if we continue to surround ourselves with people who misunderstand us, should we watch what we say and do?
Easier said than done, we are who we are and no matter how we try and monitor our moves and emotions, we tend to let our guard down way too often. After all we are not Oscar winners , we are not good pretenders , we are Just The Way We Are!!
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